I have moved!

Yes, I got my own domain and still figuring out so many things! 

Though I like blogger, I got a domain and shifted my stuff there! I haven't done the redirecting you guys directly there trick yet! Will do that some time soon. So to keep you all informed and to continue the lovely support you all give to my blog, do come across my newer, hopefully more better blog!


So, come visit me at Hajra Kvetches (Yes, didn't change the title!). And it has been one year to blogging! So, that's why all this! :) I am celebrating my blog's birthday there!  

My Seven Deadly Links...

So, last week I had nothing to blog about and my partner - in -crime Janine Ripper helps me out. Yes, she gives me this "challenge" and nominates me in this My 7 links project. Well, this isn't like any other award but it's way more scarier. I had to rate my own blog posts! But each one is like my lil baby... all precious but I had to pick it anyways - like Roy says, Janine made me do it! 


My Most Beautiful Post: I couldn't understand what beautiful meant to me. But my nephew and niece had come over for an amazing vacation and I wrote a post about Why Babies are Better. That was lovely and my nephew complimented me beautifully... he always does!


My Most Popular Post: I wish all. But in terms of statistics the one that did really well was the One about Study Habits (because it got over 70 comments and over 400 page views!) 


My Most Controversial Post: I don't think I write controversial posts... maybe because I am a little scared to do that here! But something I thought would have a lot of mixed reactions was when I was targeting people on what they really mean when they use these cliches. But then it didn't create much controversy anyway!


My Most Helpful Post: None! I just do a lot of Yikkity Yak! But a lot of students got back to me when I wrote about Study Habits and could actually apply it to their study patterns and how much they could relate. So I was very happy after that! 


A Post whose Success Surprises me: Just last week when I wrote about nothing to blog about. I loved the support and what every blogger thought that they could relate. I thought they would go like this "Oh, so this is the blogger who doesn't know what to blog about!" Didn't happen!


A post I feel didn't get the attention it deserved: Many! LOL! But the post which I enjoyed writing and din't get the attention I thought it would was this - What is your three something bad?


The Post I am Most Proud of: All! Yes. I love all my posts very much. They liberate me, make me happy and I just love them all. But then I have to pick one... the one which talks about finding my identity! And I loved the response too! 


So, Phew... I thought it would be easy. But this was the TOUGHEST blogging thing ever. So, now for the evil act of nominating four lovely people... (Evil Laugh!). I wanted to trap Bill Dorman and Roy Ackerman but seems like others have already done that! So here goes...

• Samantha Bangayan: Her energy would do loads of justice!
• Muriel Jacques: A blend of British and French links would be lovely!
• Melanie Kissell: Lol... her sense of humor would be so much fun to read!
• Thom Brown: Because he is such a pleasure to read! 

Looking forward to your posts! Also, others, do leave your seven links.. would love to read them! Good Day!

What now?

Okay. So here’s a confession.

I really don’t know what to blog about!

Maybe it is the cold, maybe the fasting (Yes, it’s Ramadan!) or maybe the same old laziness. But I really don’t know what I should blog about.

I haven’t blogged for about a week and still don’t know what I should be saying this time.

I thought I would do a recycling of an old post; or just a last minute attempt at something. But I just can’t seem to do it.

And to think to about it, I am closing in on my one year blog anniversary! Yes, almost ten more days to go before I complete one year! And I am already lost for ideas.

I never thought I could run out of ideas for complaining so soon; or that I just ran out of creative juices flowing all around my head – if I had any in the first place!

No, it’s not that. Maybe all that corporate job stress is making me think about nothing else but working. Yes, let’s put the blame on something else.

Or maybe, I should run into events that make me all nasty. Yes, it’s destiny’s fault.

Or maybe it is just because I am so lazy! My fault…. Hard to believe I just said that! (Sneer)

So, come just tell me what to blog about. Or what you did when everything decided to shut that blogging creativity of ours… yes, you can be immodest and tell me how you never run out of ideas.

Fridays will be Different... Thanks to Rob "The Power"

Yes, Friday again! And this is the last (did I hear someone say Yippeee!?) With so many things coming up and the new job and loads of lesser time, I wanted to end the series on a wonderful note. Not that we won't be thankful anymore but we might just kvetch more! 


So the final "performance" by Rob Adelphia of Today Has Power. Rob has a wonderful blog that talks about having coffee baths and inspiring music. Do go across and show his blog some love. So, after much pleading and begging to ask the wonderful "Power" to guest post, here goes: 

Rob!

It is said that a picture is worth a thousand words. I didn't have the space here for 15,000 words, so I included the pictures instead. Each of these pictures have a permanent impression in the recesses of my mind and heart. They reflect what I value and love. They reflect me, and what I'm thankful for. 
Wisdom to know that life is meant to be enjoyed...


That my baby-girl's beauty won't last forever, but the wonderful person she is, will...


Thoughts of the young dreamer…


Time spent with friends…


Time spent alone…


The cowboy in all of us… 

For days at the beach…


Second chances…


A creative and lovely wife…


Being encapsulated by nature…


The man my son is becoming (even at six)…


The encouragers, the givers, the joy spreaders… 

Snap your own memory today. It really is the little things in life that make the difference.
One final thing I'm thankful for…fellow bloggers.


Live it LOUD!
So there goes! Say hi to the wonderful Rob and go over to his blog for his wonderful power boosters he has to offer (Really!). Also, say bye to the Friday series! Ending on Rob's powerful post! 

Really, who are we again?

Two weeks back I wrote a post titled Who are we. And as many suggested, and gave in their inputs – there are two ways of looking at who we are. How we define ourselves and how others chose to define us. Depends on what you want to go with.

So, after the on going kvetch about how and who and what I think I am, I thought we could go into the second aspect. What do others think of us? I mean, it’s really okay what they think of us. But how do they remember us. What of our features stand out the most? And how do we remember others.

Just the other day I ran into a college “friend”. Seems like we took classes together for two years, lived just a city away and have been “friends” on Facebook for a long time now. But how do I remember her… ah, not by any of that. I remember her as “the girl who cheated on a Social Psychology monthly test and got caught and got kicked out of the class”. Yes, so much for Social Psychology and so much for memories.

Then, a few years back when I fell into this social media craze, I get a request from a girl who I went to school with way back in fifth grade. And how does the all grown up and supposedly mature 23 year old introduce herself, “Remember I am the girl who exchanged Boyzone posters with you. And you didn’t return my poster. I still remember that” … I mean, Gosh… that girl knows me by my “poster-not-returning” tactics. And that is what she will always remember me by. The non-poster returner Hajra.

Besides, one sad poster exchange gone all wrong, the consensus is that people remember me by the way I talk – too much, too fast. Some might remember the Psycho factor in me (Ha Ha, I am just referring to my subject), some might remember me as the girl with the colorful flip-flops, some as the one who wrote wonderful blog posts (Yes, I ain’t modest), some as the speaks-her-mind-way-too-much person, or else. Sometimes I care, sometimes I don’t. But yes, I still keep talking. Hoping that people remember me for what I made them kvetch about and how I brightened  their dull day (I said I wasn’t modest).

So, tell me, what do you refer to me by… what do others refer to you as? You like it that way? Or do you think there should be a change in the way others think about you?

Fridays will be Different... Thanks to "Techie" Carolyn!

Another Friday…after a week of featuring the amazing Bill Dorman, I fell silent. Yes, a new job, entering the corporate sector has already had its toll on me in just one week! Also, Bill was so amazing that I had to shut up! So, this week there is nobody as thankful as I am for the week to end and to breathe a sigh of relief for two days – yes, we have Fridays and Saturdays off this end of the world!

But, then I find the amazing Carolyn Nicander Mohr to come across and be thankful for me. Yes, let her do all the talking. My tired fingers are too tired to “talk”!
What has she to be all thankful about! 


  1. My amazing husband. I am blessed to be married to a man who goes beyond my dreams. My marriage gives me the foundation and freedom to grow as a person. My husband is a quiet hero who does a lot of good in the world that few people know about.


  2. My awesome daughters. Everyone marvels at their babies when they are born, but you don't know who they will become as they grow older. My daughters are loving, caring girls who are fun to be around. I know, I sound like a proud mama, and I am!


  3. I have good health. My mother never lived to be the age I am now, so I appreciate every day that I have enjoyed good health.


  4. My friends. I have incredible friends who support me when I rise and when I fall. I have made great friends online recently through my blogging who astound me with their support. I am very grateful for the kindness of friends, both close and far away.


  5. Living in a place of peace. I live in a beautiful area of the world that gives me peace. I have lived in many places but right now I am living in my favorite place I have ever lived. If I hadn't moved around so much I may never have appreciated how incredible it is to live in a place of peace.


Do say hi to Carolyn, she is very “technical” at her Wonder of Tech! And she is a wonderful visitor too! Say hi, share your thanks and visit her blog… do your Friday bit!

Fridays will be Different...Thanks to Dorman, Bill Dorman!

So after featuring six super ladies (me, Janine, Samantha, Melanie, Diana, Roberta) I pester the Invisible Blogger, Bill Dorman to be thankful this week! If you have no idea what I am talking about, do check out how I force people into being thankful on Fridays!

So, what does the James Bond persona-like Bill Dorman have to say..here goes:

We all have something to be thankful for, right? Even if we are the mushroom in the middle of a field and a cow comes by and deposits a ‘patty’ right on top of our heads; at least it kept us out of the sun, huh?

Here is what floats my boat and I’m thankful for:

1.       I’m thankful for being perfect; and I don’t mean kind of perfect, but the hair never out of place, breath always fresh, doodie never stinks and never annoying kind of perfect.

2. I’m also thanking for being so cool; the kind of cool that everyone wants to hang with me and copy what I’m doing.
3. And I certainly can’t leave out good looking; the kind of good looking that makes women stare and men are so jealous they want to fight me.
4. How can I not bring up popular; so popular that I block calls from Charlie Sheen and Tom Cruise because they became such incredible douche bags and I can’t have them sullying my reputation?
5. Finally, I’m just thankful for being me; I mean I have to pinch myself everyday and sometimes more than once a day to remind me this is real, I’m living the dream.

Ok, that was my attempt at humor and before everybody thinks I am the ultimate douche bag, let me tell you what I’m really thankful for.

1.       I am certainly thankful for my family and my health.

2.       I am thankful for my friends, both on and off line as they energize me and give me a sense of purpose. I appreciate them immensely.

3.       I am thankful for being smart enough to know I’m not going to win just by showing up; anything worth doing is going to take preparation, time and effort.

4.       I am thankful for the simple things including Hajra inviting me to be a part of her Friday series.

5.       Finally, I’m thankful I like to help others any way I can and a big believer in paying it forward. I like to give with no expectations in return.

So, that was Bill saying how thankful he is. And don’t worry he isn’t as invisible as his blog says. You can just find him everywhere….and I mean, everywhere! And tell us, could you relate to this “good looking, popular amazingly perfect” Bill…. Or just compliment him!

WHO ARE WE?

OK, I don’t mean your About Me page or your Twitter bio or how you describe yourself on Facebook. I mean, all of it.

Let’s take it from the beginning.

When I was say younger, people knew me as my elder sister’s younger sister. Yes, one of the pitfalls of being the younger sibling to a smarter, very pretty, popular elder sibling. Everyone will call you by “their name –followed by the sibling tag”. And that’s how it went till I started calling myself by my name or just when my sister changed school.

Asked to write an “About Myself” essay and it would include the tedious details of how fun-loving, outgoing, friendly, love reading books, hanging out, surfing the net, listening to music - person we all are.

Then, college. Here you are known by the subject you take or the controversies you create. Yes, I was known as the Psychology girl from the Arab World. And that is how I referred to myself as – Name- followed by “the girl from Psychology”. Well, it didn’t matter that there were 30 other girls from Psychology. They probably called their selves the same.

At work, obviously, but obviously, you are defined by your work. I am the psychologist. And that is how one would introduce oneself. “Name – followed by profession”.

Then, comes the oh – so – intriguing online world. The world’s your stage here. Say what you want, everyone believes you. Here, you could be the person you had always wanted to be! But when it comes to writing “about myself”; just what can you include.

The details of how you were a nerdy be-spectacled younger sister to a elder sister, the Psychology mumbo jumbo, your interests, the movies you like, your hobbies, your family, being a mommy / wife /aunt (if you are one!) or what?

Really, who are we? Or, who are you?

Fridays will be different...Thanks to Roberta!

Friday again! Time to meet someone new and see what they are thankful for! If you have missed the series and trying to figure out what we are talking about check out the following thankful:
Me, Janine, Samantha, Melanie, Diana!
So, this Friday time for ROBERTA BUDVIETAS of Get Out of Stuck. A brilliant lady who helps you get out of “sticky” situations and much more! So, what’s Roberta all thankful about:


• Baking with my granddaughter


• Watching my husband and granddaughter create robots or origami


• Christmas day or any holiday when my children and grandchildren are around or at least in touch


• Being able to see the ocean whenever I want by walking a short distance with my husband


• Watching old movies and sharing the tears with my husband


• Snuggling in bed and reading a good book


• Speaking to a group of people and making a difference to one or two of them


• Soaking in Paradise pools and enjoying the heat and beauty of natural hot springs in Rotorua.


Say Hello to her! And do find your way to her awesome blog too!
So what are you thankful for this week? Anything similar? Or has it been a bad week? Would love to hear you’ll kvell!

Getting up on the wrong side can be good!

You know, those days when you get up on the wrong side of the bed…not left or right or whatever superstition you go by; just the wrong side. Yes, those miserably terrible days when everything makes you go Aaargh…; well I have been having those days quite often lately.

The days when even the coffee turns out bad (Gosh!); the days when the hair just won’t settle; when the wind will blow out the perfect hairdo; everyone around you will seem chirpy, happy and all bright and beautiful.

The day when you have to send out an important mail and the internet has connectivity issues and the phone is not working and the mobile just crashed into bits and pieces.

The day when you just snap at everyone and don’t feel the guilt, don’t cringe after doing it and don’t worry about it until the “bad day grumpiness” wears off.  

Well, I don’t mind them actually. They do strike once in a while to make us get back to our grumpy old selves. Call me sadist, but getting up on the wrong side has its benefits. Yes, not for you specifically but in general. People around you are “scared”; yes, I don’t know about kids; but parents seem to nag a little less when you are having those days; one look and your colleagues know that today isn’t the day they should be messing with your coffee, your boss will shout irrespectively of anything and THEN THE BOSS will feel guilty because you just gave him a nasty stare!

So, the next time you are having a bad day; use it to your advantage! People need a little dose of the nasty you… be nasty!

So, when was the last “wrong side of the bed” day you had? Had fun or just grumped along?

Why You SHOULD Be Lazy!

I have always been a lazy girl. Like I said earlier, mommy dearest kept telling me that if I got anymore lazier, spiders would be making webs around me and the sofa.


Not that I am proud but my laziness just got me a guest post! Yes, I am kinda proud about that. On Linda's blog about positively spinning your life, I talk about why we need to stop, take a pause for some time and just be lazy. Not that I am endorsing being on the couch with a pack of chips and grunting when the remote doesn't work. While, that sounds just lovely, that gets people into a lot of trouble. Long term trouble actually. And if your mommy is nearby, big trouble! 


So, the guest post tells you to "Stop Right there, Don't Even Think About Reading This. You're Much too Busy...Aren't you? But please do, do read it! :)


So head over to Linda's blog, where I talk about being lazy, why and how you SHOULD be lazy. Join in the conversation. Tell us if you enjoy taking it easy for a while. Whether you are just too busy and needed a reminder. And how you enjoy being lazy! 


P.S. I am closing comments on this post (Oh, how I hate closing them!) so that you people do hop in there to give in your two cents! 

Fridays will be different....Thanks to Diana!

Time for Thankful Friday again! The week was very hectic and thus no posting in between! So time for someone to be thankful again! After me, Janine, Samantha and Melanie; I have Diana Simon doing the kvelling for us!

Diana

Through the same club, Diana has been such an awesome support for my blog and has got some absolutely brilliant ideas all raring to go! So what’s she thankful for? Here goes:

I am honored that Hajra has asked me to be part of this “Fridays will be different” series.  

1.       I am thankful for my family.

My husband is the most amazing person in the world and is always so patient in putting up with me. I wouldn’t put up with myself!  My sister is another saint who plays an important part in my life and it’s great when two sisters can also be best of friends. I am also thankful for my extended family as well as my husband’s. If you don’t already know, I have twin nieces who are 2-years old and I am thankful for their laughter and the joy they have brought to my life.

 2.       I am thankful for my health.

Four years ago, I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer and while it was a challenging period, it was a blessing in disguise. I now take better care of myself and it is important for me to be healthy as I intend to life a full life even at a ripe old age. I want to be able to do daily routine tasks without doing so in pain.

 3.       Talking about my health, I am thankful for my doctors.

In Italy, and it will shock many, my doctor and his team are extremely efficient and professional. My doctor even makes his team speak to me in English!  Did I mention, this is a public hospital?  While the infrastructure is questionable, my doctor and his team are god-sent. I am so thankful for him that I told my husband that if we have a boy, I am going to name him after the doctor.  That was until we found out his first name and my husband refuses!  LOL

 4.       I am thankful that my internet and laptop is working again.

Last week, I had two days where both my laptop and internet didn’t work at the same time.  I am glad they are both working now but the twist is that I was thankful that I had two days offline. It was a much needed break!

5.       I am thankful that I am on holiday for until September.

As most of you know, I teach and always make the most of my summer by taking 3 months off.  I am away for a month visiting family but that doesn’t mean I won’t be blogging

So now as always just tell Diana how much we enjoyed having her here! Do visit her Coaching Blog; she does wonders there! 

Fridays will be different....Thanks to Melanie!

So another Friday and another week to stop whining and taking time to being thankful. If you are new here then go check out the Friday rituals to see what we have been doing here: the first where I was thankful, then Janine and Samantha.


This week I have the grand Melanie Kissell of Solo Mompreneur. I met Melanie through a blogging club and it has been wonderful knowing the lady with the long comments! Yes, she writes the most amazing comments that are thoughtful, genuine and has taken effort. If you have a blog, then you should definitely have Melanie there to comment on it; makes your day! So here’s what the lovely lady has to be thankful for:

The lovely Melanie!

Migraines and dirty dishes.


Who can say they're thankful for those two things?


I can!
Now don't think I'm not grateful for things like good friends, nice neighbors, a wonderful blogging community, a reliable vehicle, and a pulse ... because I am!


But the following are what I'm REALLY thankful for.


1.) I loved kaleidoscopes as a child - all those really cool geometric shapes and colors. Now that I'm an adult, I'm so thankful I suffer with ocular migraines. I get to see all those beautiful shapes and colors flashing in front of my eyes again!


2.) I'm really thankful for the absolute *guarantee* it's going to rain as soon as I've spent hours washing and detailing my car. It's an amazing phenomenon. We get lots of "dry spells" here in Southern California. No problem. I've discovered a way to end the drought. Wash my car. How empowering is THAT?!


3.) The dishwasher is broken in my apartment. It's never worked since my daughters and I moved in almost two years ago, and I couldn't be happier. I'm so thankful to have piles of dishes to wash each week and the opportunity to prove Palmolive dishwashing liquid really does soften your hands! I've used so much of their product, I'm sure Palmolive is going to contact me to do a television commercial.


4.) There's nothing finer than paying almost $200 a month for T.V., phone, and internet service (you know, the infamous "bundle"?) and having your service fail on you at least every other week. I'm extremely thankful for those outages! I get to use my cell phone and talk to all kinds of interesting customer service representatives from foreign countries. I feel so lucky. Not everyone can say they've spoken to someone in the People's Republic of Bangladesh!


5.) I'm very thankful for the 7 - 10 loads of laundry I tackle every week. It's a nice diversion from dusting and vacuuming. With two daughters, seems like the dirty clothes bin is never empty. The only thing that's empty around here is the toilet paper spindle -- the minute "I" need to use the bathroom. I can't thank my girls enough for doing their part to make sure I never have any leisure time. And anyway, mothers weren't put on this earth to have fun (were they?).


So, that was Melanie’s thankful Friday moment. Say hi to Melanie and tell her how much fun you had reading the post! Also, do visit her blog and pretty please her to visit yours if you want some amazing input to your posts!
P.S. It was her Birthday…wish her a HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

WHERE ARE YOU FROM?

I always get that question. And I find it hard to answer. Oh no, not because I don’t know where I am from. Just because people confuse me further.

I was born in India. But when I was four, we shifted to the UAE. And that is where I stayed till I was 17. Finished school and went to India for higher education. Finished my Masters and now I am back in the UAE.

So every time I am asked that question, I launch into a big 500-or-more-words-essay-type-answer of telling them how I was born in India, raised in UAE and then did my higher education in India and now am working in the UAE.

And that is usually followed by… “I meant country” and “Am I talking to a crazy person” look.

So when we were young, my dad made sure we took our annual vacations in India. So vacations there were spent by our cousins telling us, “So, Dubai returned kids, don’t like the weather here, and don’t like the water here…eh?” And poor me, all of 10 would answer it by saying, “Why do you say this, I AM from India, I just live there, that’s it.”

In college, during our introduction, I identified myself as from India and then one professor mentioned this… young lady, aren’t you from the Arab world. No I am not, I just lived there. I am from India. No use, they all kept referring to me as the Indi-Arab.

Now, what raises that question…the color of my skin, the way I dress, my accent, my bright jazzy Mojris (the most comfortable footwear ever!) or just plain curiosity. Not that I hate answering it, just that the question implies that it should be answered by one country and that is just not possible anymore.

So maybe I look like a Pakistani, maybe my habits are Arab, maybe my likes are Indian, but I keep thinking… should I, just should I just show them my passport? I mean…technically.

Had trouble answering the question? Born here, lived there, and worked elsewhere and totally from all the way over there? Isn’t the world just a huge, huge thing! 

Fridays will be different....Thanks to Samantha!

Friday again! Time to pause the kvetching for a day and shout out our thanks! If you haven’t been following and are new here, I KVELL on Fridays instead of kvetching! The first Friday kvell was done by me and the second by Janine Ripper.

Samantha

 This week I have the lovely Samantha Bangayan to join us in doing her thankful duties! I met Samantha through a blogging club and she soon became one of my favorite bloggers. She blogs at What Little Things about her life in Huancayo, Peru.  

So here’s what “Sammy” has to say about her Fridays:

I haven't been spending the time to be thankful for all that I've been blessed with these days, so I was ecstatic when Hajra started celebrating Fridays this way and what an honor to be invited to share my "thankfuls" too! My first warm "Thank You" goes to Hajra for being such a supportive and encouraging friend!

Other tidbits I've been thankful for this week?

 Huancaino wear

1. I am thankful that they sell Pringles and Nutella in the one supermarket here in Huancayo. This is a new phenomenon and I don't know how I survived without them.

2. I am thankful that when my kitty, Fénix, bites and scratches me, I only get real wounds around once a week. He is so vicious for an innocent-looking 7-month-old! Any cat training advice would be greatly appreciated!

3. I am thankful my partner agreed that gifts for his birthday should be gifts for me too. We bought an electric heater for his birthday a couple weeks ago that I now use right by my desk.

4. I am thankful that the rooster on the roof sings cockle-a-doodle-do all day, so I never feel like I'm alone. When the kitty refuses to stay in my lap, I can always rely on the various sounds and rhythms around my apartment building to keep me company. If it's not the rooster, there are always other cats meowing or salsa and reggae ton playing at the bar just a building away.

5. I am thankful that I learned to braid my own hair into pigtail braids because it helps me fit in with the traditional look of women in the Central Andes. Now I just need to tan a bit more, so I don't look so gringa!

So, that was the lovely Samantha with her kvellings! Say hi to her and tell her what a wonderful person she is! 


Join in, tell us what you were thankful about this week?

What do they REALLY mean?

I am tired of people not telling the truth – Ok, I get all the controversial stuff but every day ambiguous sentences are getting a little tiresome. I mean I wouldn’t call those people liars, maybe the diplomacy, guilt factor and nagging moms keep coming in the way and they are just “forced” to say things they don’t mean.

So over the past few months, I have been getting a lot of these and experiences just tell me what they mean.

·         I am busy, I will call you back: At many times, rightly translated it reads as follows “I didn’t know it was you calling, otherwise I wouldn’t have bothered taking the call. Hang up right now, I am going to save your number as “Don’t pick up or bother to call back”.

·         You are perfect for the job, we will get in touch soon:  Ok, we didn’t hear what you had to say, we don’t know whether we have positions available, my coffee is getting cold, hmmm…what should I have for lunch, didn’t I tell the darn secretary to call me with “something important” five minutes into this “interview”, wait what was this chap’s name.

·         I am on my way, just five more minutes: It will take me over an hour, I still haven’t changed, I completely forgot and stop calling me every five minutes because that’s not going to change things.

·         Just 5 more minutes with the TV: Coming from a 5 year old it definitely means this “Please, just stop nagging me; I am going to be saying the same thing for the next hour, stop worrying about my eyes and just please, oh please, stop blocking my view”. Coming from a 20 year old also, it probably means the same.

·         Everything looks so pretty on you, I can’t choose:  I haven’t being paying attention, why do you make me go through this, what time was the game on TV, 6 or 8…should I message someone, are you going to be buying matching shoes after this…I hope not, just pick one already!

Please if you are late, just tell me so. I might just go back to napping. If you don’t want to give me the job, just tell me, I will stop jumping every time my mobile rings hoping it is the job confirmation. Just say it nicely, there is a nice way to say bad things… except for when you want to talk about my weight, there is no nice way to say that!

So have you had enough of sugar coatings? What do you think they really mean?