Some Special Women...and a Big Sorry and Thank you!

I was recently invited by a blogging “buddy” Janine Ripper to participate in Emergen's Blogging for a Cause for International Women's Day. And it took me days to figure out what to write something which should suit the “mood” of my blog! So here’s what I came up with. This Women’s Day I am going to make the women in my life feel special…. By dedicating a whole blog post about them, by doing something I might not have done before: saying sorry to them.

Mom: Sorry for being messy, for not making my bed, for not saying “I love you too”, for not taking your calls or for not returning them, for not buying the clothes you wanted me to wear, for snapping back and for being the nasty person I always am! Thank you for surviving it all!

Sisters: For being critical, for being the spoilt younger brat, for getting you both in trouble… and thanks for covering up….always!

Best friends: Not surprisingly…all of them are girls! Sorry for not returning your calls, for not meeting up often and for all the times when I just couldn’t be there! Thanks a ton for being the most amazing, most giggly, gossipy and just the best friends always!

My niece: Sorry young lady…but I just don’t have anything to be sorry about…I have always been my best with you….probably, you might be writing a tribute about your wonderful aunt few years from now! Thanks for making me fall in love with babies!

So who are the special women in your life and how are you making them feel special? 

WHAT IS YOUR "THREE SOMETHING BAD"?

I wasn’t feeling well a few days back and it got me nastier than ever! And I have bad writers block during bad health times. And I got nastier (yes, even more). And suddenly I was reminded of an activity I was introduced to in my first psychology class. Don’t worry, no Freudian philosophy, just a simple activity to get to know oneself better.

As we sat there waiting in anticipation of what a first psychology class will bring, in walked a pretty Professor and after the preliminary introduction she asked us to rip out a piece of paper and do this. Write down three good qualities about yourself, more if you can come up with it. Oh, what fun we had…. Honest, truthful, friendly, sociable, jovial, fun – loving, never say die attitude…plenty came up with up to ten adjectives to prove what a “fun” and “nice” person we are!

Then came the hard part… yes, it always follows the fun. We were instructed to rip out papers again and write three bad qualities about you… anything which you don’t like about yourself and something “bad”… Oh we all had a tough time. Chewing pencils, scratching heads, empty glances, peeping into others ripped blank pieces of paper. After the given five minutes, everyone ended up with a maximum of two or less “something bad” about their selves. When questioned, some responded this way: I might be a bit nasty but only when someone irks me to do so; I might be short tempered but why do people make me angry?

We had learnt our lesson… before psychoanalyzing others, learn about yourself…know your strengths, but know your weaknesses better and work on them!

As for me these are my three “something bad” – I get pretty nasty, I complain a lot (quite obvious from my blog….read more of it!) and I talk way too much.

So tell me, what is your “three something bad”; throw in your three “something good” to make yourself feel better! 

ARE YOU THIS WEIRD MALL PERSON?

I was at this mall yesterday night.  It was weekend and the mall was crowded like crazy and I was too tired to walk around so I settled on this bench and just waited. And noticed what I haven’t done in a long time….. People! And I was so happy to find that I wasn't the only “weird” person around. So, what are the other odd people I ran into…?

ETERNAL FASHIONISTA: Yes, the complete fashion victim. All done in the latest designer wear, designer bags, a sizzling watch to go with, chic hair, tons of make-up, lots of accessories hanging around from every corner, stuttering away in really uncomfortable six inch heels and not to forget the huge sunglasses – yes, inside the mall at 9 p.m.!

THE SHOPPING BAG: People with loads of shopping bags, dashing into every shop with DISCOUNT written on it, coming out with something they don’t need and probably will never use for the rest of their lives.

THE GIGGLY GROUP: Mostly teenagers, hanging out in groups, giggling at every instant, trying to be “cool”, wearing mixed colors, mismatched “funky” accessories, boys with shiny hats, girls with shiny tops, sometimes noisy, sometimes loud but having pure “fun” trying to be “cool”!

THE ANGRY MOTHER – DAUGHTER DUO : Every one of you must have been through this; an angry mother walking off because daughter wanted a top which will always be “too low cut, too revealing, too inappropriate” and daughter will always be “too young for it”. And the daughter, she is all grumpy and crossed hands and expresses her anger by walking and banging her foot on her floor.

THE WALKING TECHNOLOGY: This is very common now, the biggest mobile in hand, ear phones attached, IPod in the pocket, checking out the gadgets, talking tech lingo and discussing everything digital!

THE LONELY DAD WITH CHILD : This category had been my “company” on the bench. A dad with a child in the stroller and the mother is nowhere to be seen; probably too busy shopping. But oddly, this is pretty common.

ROAD BLOCKER PEOPLE : That’s what I named them… they travel in groups, walk in horizontal lines and have poor or no consideration for the people walking behind them. They cause a “mini – jam” for everyone and talk so loudly that they miss the “excuse me” coming from people behind them.

So, what kind of a mall person are you? Tell me! Or add a new category!