What are you tired of hearing?

Some things are just said too often. Way too often. Very often in fact.

I don’t know the reason, I think maybe out of habit or maybe we don’t realize that the person on the receiving end is silently cringing on hearing that “phrase” for the umpteenth time that day.

So things I am tired of hearing and wishing “If only I had a penny…” yes, I am kvetching again!

From Peanuts 

·         If only I had a penny…: No one and I mean NO ONE, no one gives a penny, so it’s no use wishing.

·         Where do you see yourself…: I see myself successful, rich and a lot happier, whether five years from now, ten years, twenty years, fifty years, a century….that is how I see myself; always. Isn’t that everyone’s ultimate goal? Richer, happier and successful. What else?

·         What do you want to be when you grow up: This was as a kid. Spare me, I was 10, all I was bothered about was getting my math lessons right and shooting the duck in the video game.  

·         I am a complex person; I need to figure things out:  Aren’t we all? Psychology taught me that “Human is a complex being” and that remains. So stop saying that you are the only one. We all are; we all need to figure out so many things, just go with the flow.

·         Things will get better: Yes, they will if you just stop saying so ALL the time. Things do get better, only to get worse again, only to get better again…that is life’s circle. Just play along!

No matter how much I “kvetch”; I will be the one often using them again…If only I had a penny for every time I kvetched!

So, anything you are tired of hearing? Or are you slightly cringing and saying… things will get better!

AS KREATIV AS I CAN BE!

It’s been less than a year and thanks to Janine, I get my second “blogging award”! It came as a pleasant surprise, I don’t think I am creative but the lovely Janine thinks otherwise, so guilty as charged! She just bestowed me the Kreativ Blogger Award!

So conditions with this award is that

• I needed to pass on the Kreativ Blog Award to 10 bloggers and notify them; and
• I needed to tell you all 10 things about me that you don’t already know.

Both really tough tasks because I have more than 10 bloggers I would love to acknowledge and I really don’t know what ten things of mine would interest you. But I am doing it anyways!

So for the top ten I would love to acknowledge:

1. Janine Ripper at Reflections from a Red Head: I know we aren’t supposed to pass it on to those who passed it to us but she is and will always remain my No.1 blogger!
2. Heather Fonseca at Style Confessions: I am no fashion crazed but a chance meeting (through LinkedIn) introduced me to the lady who believes in weaving style and simplicity!
3. Samantha Bangayan at What Little Things: I love the way she has an opinion and a voice about the life in Peru.
4. Bonnie Copeland at My Rivendell: She actually has wonderful tips to get around in life!
5. Roy A. Ackerman, Ph.D., E.A. at Cerebrations: Undoubtedly, the man with the most intelligent posts…always!
6.  Steve Rice at Karmic Kappuccino: I came across his blog recently and couldn’t get my eyes off the title! Wonderful words of inspiration and if you name it Kappuccino, you are bound to get readers!
7. Melanie Kissell as the Solo Mompreneur: Last I heard, she was telling us all to shorten our emails to 140 characters!
8. Veronica Campos-Hallstrom at Club Creative Studio: Where there is creativity, there is Veronica!
9. Cathy Jones at Just My Thoughts: A wonderful photographer… and beautiful posts!
10.  Linda at Talk Therapy Biz: Last time I gave her an award she wrote a post called 7 Bloggers I want to share my Couch with!

And now for the tougher part, ten things about myself:

1. I am a big foodie; to say “No, I am not hungry” is like a crime in my life.
2. My all time favorite movie remains Forrest Gump, though I watch tons of movies, Forrest Gump remains my No.1!
3. As a kid, I was so naughty that my parents were scared I would be kicked out of school. But surprisingly that never happened.
4. I hate getting my photos clicked. I always end up with the most awkward smile.
5. I don’t understand the Vampire craze that has gripped the world. I watched Twilight movies and vowed to never do it again.
6. I take a lot of time to make decisions. The only snap decisions I make are in a shoe shop!
7. I just spent my last salary on books, almost all of it!
8. I am as lazy as lazy can be… my mom thinks that spiders will make webs around me someday.
9. I am very bad at learning languages. I stayed in the UAE almost 17 years and made it without learning Arabic. I know how to read and write, but I still find it hard to speak. Contrary to belief, everyone here manages fine with English!
10. Coming up with these ten things took me the longest than writing any other post. Mainly because I have done the “things about me” posts twice already!

So, there you go, thanks to Janine once again! And to the ten of you… pass it on guys!

SAY IT LIKE IT IS?

The other day I was watching a reality show on television. The show was about blind dates and had a couple of over enthusiastic teenagers with hopes of being the next television stars. So out comes the girl who was supposed to be the “catch of the day” and seeing the haggard, overtly plump and “jeans and t-shirt” clad girl, one guy says this “Did I come all the way for this obese, dumb behenji” (behenji is a Hindi phrase, check out its meaning!).

Now as a viewer I had a good laugh but seeing the poor girls face and reaction, I thought oh my, she will need therapy some years from now. So does saying as it is, always hurt? I mean, no matter how much we rattle on about being the “straight forward” and “direct” and “what I think is what I speak”, are we really so?

Image from Ihasfunny

Are we really going to have fun or some hearts will be truly broken?

Imagine telling someone they look way fat, or that their dress isn’t pretty, or that you are simple tired of listening to their success stories, tired of listening to what a terrible time they just had, the color of lipstick they have been wearing for years doesn’t suit them at all, that you just don’t want to go for the movies with them because they chomp on their popcorns too loudly, that you just keep nodding all the time is because you weren’t listening and were trying to look intelligent and interested.

Also, that you hate going shopping with them because it embarrasses to hang out with someone with such bad choices, that they slurp when they drink and it irritates you, that you don’t really like discussing sci-fi movies or having endless debates over the micro details of what the Apple products have to offer and most importantly, that you don’t really understand what the hell was Inception all about?

So can we always say this or do we like playing on the lines of diplomacy for the sake of not hurting others. Should we say it like it is? Does it make life easier with everyone just nodding along?

And really, what the hell was Inception all about? I just nod along.